The more views this post of mine gets, the more are the chances of me facing the wrath especially from the likes of Sooraj Barjatya, Ekta Kapoor and their followers. Contradictory to your thoughts, I am not thrashing the genre of movies and serials they produce (that will require me to write a book than a mere blog post). The thing which I am going to express has been going in my mind since years. Finally, I have found time to explode this thing onto my blog, without giving a damn to the criticisms and gaalis!
Before starting off, I would like to make myself clear that I have deep respect for Indian culture and traditions. However, there are some beliefs and practices which appear to me as plain stupid or illogical. I am not one of those huge majority of Indians, who unquestionably and blindly follow some beliefs despite being aware of its absurdity. So, here’s the list of those practices or beliefs which I find trashy: –
- Husband-Worship: A husband and a wife are considered life partners. They are two people who have decided to stay together since they love each other (in most of the cases I suppose). If this is the case, then why the hell is the wife expected to give a Godly status to her husband? Why does the society make the husband look superior to his wife by promoting beliefs like Pati parmeshwar hota hai and Patni ki jagah pati ke charanon mein hoti hain? The man is not doing any ehsaan on the girl or her family by marrying her. After all, isn’t he in need of a wife just like the girl is in need of a husband?
- Right-Hand Theory: Innumerable times during my childhood I was ordered not to use my left hand while accepting prashaad or money. Yes, I know the left hand is used for some ‘other’ thing but don’t we wash our hands or take a bath after that activity? So what’s the big deal in using that hand? It’s just a part of our body yaar! And if the hand is considered so inauspicious, don’t use it for any purpose and just keep it reserved for ‘that’ activity. If discrimination amongst people on the basis of religion, region or caste isn’t enough, we also have discrimination between our body parts!
- Karvachauth Hangover: After following innumerable number of movies and serials, these wives keep Karvachauth Ka Vrat for the long life of their husbands. But the big question remains – why only the wife prays for her husband’s long life and why not vice versa? And by the way, how can anyone be a fool enough to believe that such a thing actually increases someone’s life span? What biological changes does the body experience that increases the life expectancy due to this bloody vrat?
- A Curse in Disguise: It is annoying to see phrases like ‘Sada Suhagan Raho’ and ‘Akhand Saubhagyawati’ being considered as the most auspicious of blessings. It is indirectly telling the girl, “Bhagwan kare tere pati ke pehle tu mare!” How can you hope or wish for someone’s death? Or do these people still believe that a woman won’t be able to live alone even in today’s era? You talk of women’s liberation but at the same time keep promoting such curses. Why not a single pro-women group has ever raised its voice against such a ghastly gender bias?
Today, modernism is only limited to clothes, appearance and way of speaking while the thinking continues to remain backwards courtesy these beliefs. Our society will be truly modern only when logic and equality will rule every institution and phenomenon. Until that time – Andhera Kaayam Rahen!
ankita says
hey one more good post frm u…keep it up!!!!
Keyur Seta says
Thanks a lot dear. Always wonderful to have a comment from you 🙂
Natasha says
Another good one:)
Keyur Seta says
Thanks dear 🙂
Padmanabh says
Bro…one more important issue, a man is never blamed openly even if he has tonnes of relationships..whether before marriage or after. But the moment, a woman is a little more open minded or extrovertish …her character is commented upon in a negative sense…I dont wanna state the words used….these are basically parameters of hyprocrisy covered under the blanket of religion..
Raja Ram Mohan Roy did succeed in making the position of women in the society better. But, if you see, there’s also been a flipside in the form of the concept of reservation for women in certain places…which is again not practical…I believe that an entity who has the power / capacity to give birth to a new life is by no means weaker and giving Her reservations, is challenging her strength. WOMAN & MAN should work hand in hand and both need to be given equal status,,,
Pratibha says
great! thanks
ashish says
Dear blogger
i agree with some of your points but not all. there are many things which a person does not because there is some logic behnd it but because he/she feels happy or satisfied doing it. and this is not only in indiaan culture but it happens in all culture and alll religions. take the gift giving ritual during christmas by santa clause. its not true but still it is continuing. so jus njoy it till it dont give problem to u.
as far as the position of women in society is considered, yes i do beleive there needs an improvement but saying this i dont mean that karva chauth is a waste. may be it scientifically dont elongates a man life but it definately brings joy and happiness im most family n bring couple close to each other. exceptions can be there.
so there are many dimensions to be considered other than scientific one.
Keyur Seta says
Dear Ashish,
Thanks for writing in. I agree that there are rituals that bring happiness and should be enjoyed. It’s just that I am against the points mentioned because it they are an insult to women and it regenerates the belief that they are inferior to men.
Thanks again,
Regards,
Keyur
Pratibha says
Karva Chauth in no way brings couples close, a burden on the girl`s family for gifts. An enforced fast on many if not all and a stupid way to deck up as a nautanki!.Dedicate the fast to your parents, it makes sense then. They are old and weak and need prayers not the husband. And by the way does not the husband wish his wife to live long? Why not keep a fast for her?
Pratibha says
Bravo! Our society needs intelligent men like you!
Keyur Seta says
Thanks a lot Pratibhaji. May common sense prevail some day.
Vande Mataram!